Why "They" do what they do?

When they are in agony
I am too
When they are delighted
I am too

How strange is the world of yours, O' Lord...

That,

When I agonize
They delight
When I am in bliss
They criticize

STOP CRIBBING and START LIVING.

A quick thought to reflect upon -

Whatever "it" is that you think will bring you happiness. If you're not content without it, you will never be content with it.


As a norm we all tend to have desires that we want to fulfill, once they get fulfilled we are happy, but if not, we are upset.

However, If you are not spiritual enough to be happy and content even without having that thing or experience or person that you desire then you will never be able to be truly happy and content.

There is always something new that will excite you, once you get that, then there will further be something newer in store. It is an endless circle. Associating your happiness with these desires is like postponing your bliss only to be experienced in your next desire, once that gets fulfilled you run behind the 'next' and the 'next' and the 'next'.

 The key is to be content right NOW and witness how Life unfolds its wonders for you.

This may sound crazy but sometimes you do not get what you desire even after constantly chasing it for a long time. But the same desire gets instantly fulfilled the moment you let go of the need to have it.

It sounds like a mystery to me, but I think the more cheerful and at peace we are with our selves the more awesome life will become.

So...STOP CRIBBING and START LIVING.

Is it suicide or lack of motivation?

According to a report released by Associated Press in 2012, suicide rates in India are highest in the age group of 15-29 that too in well developed regions that have better quality education, social welfare and health care. The study confirms suicide as the second most leading cause of death for young Indians. Surprisingly most of these youngsters who committed suicide were well educated.

After reading the findings of the National Crime Records Bureau and going through the long list of causes for suicidal deaths. I was able to see a common thread that linked all these causes together, thereby creating a single major cause which can simply be understood as the ''lack of motivation''.

It is seen that most of these educated young people end their lives because they are either going through a list of family problems (which accounts for almost 25.6% of suicides) or they are fed up from some Illness (21.1%), or they are the victim of issues like poverty, failure in examination, fall in social reputation, unemployment, physical abuse, impotency, marriage failure, loss of a loved one, career problems, betrayal in a romantic relationship, drug abuse and so on.

Psychological experiments over many years have proved that we are not driven by reason as much as by emotion. Emotion drives our thoughts and influences the way we live and so any emotional setback tends to take a deadly toll on our entire well being. According to a renowned psychiatrist Dr Abhay Gajbhiye, ''Those who observe such people must encourage them to talk about their problems, they can try to show the person the larger picture and the insignificance of the problem''.

The reason why most people keep suppressing their deepest hurtful feelings within themselves is that they are aware of the fact that there is hardly anyone out there who is willing to listen to them without interrupting or being judgmental. Even if they listen for the sake of listening, the lack of interest and the fake concern can be clearly seen and so at times it appears best to suppress the emotions and thoughts within oneself until one feels mentally and emotionally suffocated.

It is odd that we desire engaging in social work (mostly reserved as a post retirement task) to contribute in making the society a better place, but miss out on something as basic and as simple as giving such people some space and time, where they can feel at ease, where they can release their distress and pain.

Thought to ponder: Even if you win the rat race you will still end up being a rat and so what really matters is how many lives you touch and the difference that you make to each one of them. You may never know that your next interaction with someone may just bring back to them the spark of hope and the enthusiasm for Life which they were so desperately waiting for.

Take care and remain blessed.

Rafaat Khan

The most expensive gift

This may not be the most appropriate blog post to begin with but whenever I see myself in between a conflict of mind vs heart. I tend to listen to what my mind (logic and rationality) says but follow what my heart (emotion) has to say.

I think that the greatest irony of Life is that we spend most of our time with people who are least concerned about our happiness and well-being and spend very less time (less quality time) with people who will most of time ( if not always) show up when you are in pain and expect nothing in return.

At times of heavy personal crisis. Your boss will not be there for you, your co-workers will be busy with their routine, even your friends may not support you. But you will see your  family and a selected few among your friends surrounding you with open arms to catch you before you fall.

How funny it is that we have less time for those who add the highest value to our existence. Who give us the greatest gifts like love and joy, thereby creating memories that will be preserved in our hearts forever.

I think 'time' is the greatest of all resources that we are blessed with. Time is the building block of life, the most sacred gift from God to us and so one of the purest ways of expressing your love for someone is by giving them your time wholeheartedly.

Thought to ponder - Giving someone your time is like giving them a piece of your Life, this cannot be substituted with something tangible that money can buy.

Thank you for your time, please feel free to drop in a comment below.

With love and hope,

Rafaat Khan